“10 lakh girls missing from Indian population”, I came across this curiosity-filled headline on a news channel’s website. The news piece spoke about the female foeticide, sex determination, selective abortion etc and that’s how there was a deficit of 10 lakh girls. You may wish to go through the complete article - http://www.ibnlive.com/news/10-lakh-girls-missing-from-indian-population/60570-3.html.
It is really surprising that such acts are still being practiced despite many of us boasting about women’s liberlisation and their equality. Though many things around have changed, somehow the overall mentality of our society of looking at the opposite sex is still the same. The male ego gets hurt easily when he sees woman power rising, however, he loves woman on top in some cases. The gender bias that the rural illiterate stick to is somewhat understood considering that their mindsets are still ruled by the long inherited opinions of their seniors. However, the article stated above mentions that even the educated urban class believes in gender classification and tend to choose a boy over a girl. Surprisingly, one study in the UK conducted by Oxford University reveals that Indians there too abort their daughters at the pre-natal stage. I wonder what would happen to the sex ratio. Though there are many movies and novels which have showcased women suppression, molestation etc, I am particularly reminded of a movie, “Matrubhoomi”, which illustrates the implications of female foeticide and the gender imbalance. We don’t want girls of our own and our outlook would never change on this. However, his (eye)balls pop-out when he sees bulging bosoms, his sight gets stuck when she flaunts her cleavage, he enjoys the scene most when she walks up to a chemist to buy a female condom, and ofcourse he likes her the most when it comes to the universal act of pleasure giving in the bed. He takes pleasure in all this and even may be praises, loves, and adores her at the time. However, when it comes to equality and her freedom, he shies away. Our society for long has been rehearsing different set of rules for males and females.
She is today a CEO, a MLA, a fighter pilot, a fashion icon, or a smart investment savvy housewife. However, all these are just exceptions I guess. There is a large chunk of this opposite sex that still lies underprivileged and suppressed. She is wooed, eyed, beaten up, raped but is seldom respected. In a typical Indian family which cares more for the society than its family members (mostly female members), her opinion is least important and she is hardly ever made a part of any discussions or decisions. She has forever been taken for granted, even when it is the question of her own marriage. She still does not have the complete right to decide with whom she should spend rest of her life. The day she hits 25 or she finishes her education (if she is allowed to do so), whichever is earlier, groom hunting becomes the topmost priority of the family. Does the girl want to get married? Who cares, we think that she should get married; its high time now, says mom and pop. Does she think she is ready for marriage? Oh come on who is bothered and we are not doing anything wrong for her. When parents themselves can be so suppressive and mental molesters, why to talk about outsiders. She is anyway going to be suppressed, frustrated and rarely cared for, whether it is inside or outside.
She is of the opposite sex and does not deserve as much as he does. Since the ancient times man has been considered to be powerful and the bread earner. And that eventually leads us to a conclusion that opposite sex means weak and not as capable as a man. That is not how we were made and not for what we were made for. She is complementary, someone that complements a man, balances and harmonizes with him in every aspect, completes him. He probably got ‘opposite’ in wrong sense, she actually means ‘the complementary sex’. And she is the best compliment he ever got – a mother, a sister, a wife, a daughter.
With International Women’s Day, just a day away, here’s wishing all my “beautiful & pretty” readers, “A Very Happy Women’s Day”. Cheers!
It is really surprising that such acts are still being practiced despite many of us boasting about women’s liberlisation and their equality. Though many things around have changed, somehow the overall mentality of our society of looking at the opposite sex is still the same. The male ego gets hurt easily when he sees woman power rising, however, he loves woman on top in some cases. The gender bias that the rural illiterate stick to is somewhat understood considering that their mindsets are still ruled by the long inherited opinions of their seniors. However, the article stated above mentions that even the educated urban class believes in gender classification and tend to choose a boy over a girl. Surprisingly, one study in the UK conducted by Oxford University reveals that Indians there too abort their daughters at the pre-natal stage. I wonder what would happen to the sex ratio. Though there are many movies and novels which have showcased women suppression, molestation etc, I am particularly reminded of a movie, “Matrubhoomi”, which illustrates the implications of female foeticide and the gender imbalance. We don’t want girls of our own and our outlook would never change on this. However, his (eye)balls pop-out when he sees bulging bosoms, his sight gets stuck when she flaunts her cleavage, he enjoys the scene most when she walks up to a chemist to buy a female condom, and ofcourse he likes her the most when it comes to the universal act of pleasure giving in the bed. He takes pleasure in all this and even may be praises, loves, and adores her at the time. However, when it comes to equality and her freedom, he shies away. Our society for long has been rehearsing different set of rules for males and females.
She is today a CEO, a MLA, a fighter pilot, a fashion icon, or a smart investment savvy housewife. However, all these are just exceptions I guess. There is a large chunk of this opposite sex that still lies underprivileged and suppressed. She is wooed, eyed, beaten up, raped but is seldom respected. In a typical Indian family which cares more for the society than its family members (mostly female members), her opinion is least important and she is hardly ever made a part of any discussions or decisions. She has forever been taken for granted, even when it is the question of her own marriage. She still does not have the complete right to decide with whom she should spend rest of her life. The day she hits 25 or she finishes her education (if she is allowed to do so), whichever is earlier, groom hunting becomes the topmost priority of the family. Does the girl want to get married? Who cares, we think that she should get married; its high time now, says mom and pop. Does she think she is ready for marriage? Oh come on who is bothered and we are not doing anything wrong for her. When parents themselves can be so suppressive and mental molesters, why to talk about outsiders. She is anyway going to be suppressed, frustrated and rarely cared for, whether it is inside or outside.
She is of the opposite sex and does not deserve as much as he does. Since the ancient times man has been considered to be powerful and the bread earner. And that eventually leads us to a conclusion that opposite sex means weak and not as capable as a man. That is not how we were made and not for what we were made for. She is complementary, someone that complements a man, balances and harmonizes with him in every aspect, completes him. He probably got ‘opposite’ in wrong sense, she actually means ‘the complementary sex’. And she is the best compliment he ever got – a mother, a sister, a wife, a daughter.
With International Women’s Day, just a day away, here’s wishing all my “beautiful & pretty” readers, “A Very Happy Women’s Day”. Cheers!
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